Valentine’s Day is such a funny “holiday,” in fact, I really don’t consider it a holiday. For me, even when I was in relationships, Valentine’s Day seemed like an excuse to conform. Conform to the idea that Valentine’s Day isn’t created for anything other than a fast dollar. It’s an excuse for your significant over to the pick up the slack they’d been avoiding for months, years even.
People in relationships are looking this over and probably thinking “What a bitter girl, who hates Valentine’s Day.” I don’t hate Valentine’s Day; it’s such a pretty day, filled with flowers and chocolate. I just want to draw attention to the fact that the whole day is overrated. Would you rather receive flowers on Valentine’s Day because your significant other feels pressured to conform to the norms, or receive flowers on a random day because they just felt like doing something that will make you happy? I know which option I would choose.
This Valentine’s Day, focus on yourself. Remind yourself why you love you. This works if you are in a relationship or not. You can’t expect warmth and affection from others when you aren’t giving yourself the love you need and deserve.
This month I have had the honour of participating in a 14 day Challenge from Mindspo. It is called #GoLoveYourself. This website has brought me so many happy, engaged moments and I thought I would use these 14 days to start on the path to love myself. Something I’d been avoiding for years.
Like many young females, self love is a difficult to accept. Waking up every day, looking into a mirror, and being able to confidently say “Hey Emma, I love you.” Was something foreign to me. I urge you to start doing this and if you take anything from this post, take that with you. For 13 days, I have woken up and reminded myself that I love me, every little piece of me and every hard line. This has done wonders for my self-esteem, generating a happiness in me that not a single compliment can surpass.
It’s simple, when you love yourself, others love you too. People have told me many times before, how can you expect someone else to love you if you don’t love yourself? It’s true. Valentine’s Day is the perfect day to spend with yourself, discovering what you love about yourself and what you would like to improve on.
I personally believe you should always strive for better. This does not mean “better” than anyone else. But rather better than you were yesterday. This can mean a lot of things to different people, for me it means letting go of my anger caused by grief. For you, it can mean anything. I try every day to do something differently, live every day better than the last. For a long time, I woke up angry, at both the world and at myself. I hope and wish that you wake up every day loving yourself more and willing to embrace the challenges to come.
This Valentine’s Day, choose love. Choose to love yourself first, because at the end of the day. This one body and mind is all that you have. Valentine’s Day should be treated as a new day, a new twenty-four hours for you to begin your journey to self-love.
Personally, I believe it’ll be the most important and satisfying journey you will ever take. All you need to begin loving yourself is you. That’s more than enough, I promise you.
Xoxo, thanks for reading